Am I a chauvinist? I'm writing....

Am I a chauvinist? I’m writing…

The world consists of men who are good, the peace-robbers and the bad men. God created them (guess who?) for great companionship, support and to guide. But they don’t seem to be so. They are bad in understanding; need our support rather and very problematic. You know whom I’m talking about. They are the still-to-be-better-half of the homosapien species. I wonder how men co-exist with them. While the men in the form of kings and emperors ruled the world, they have ruled men. Yet I still fail to discern what is that they want from their inglorious counterparts. Men, agreed are intimidating, atrocious in exercising their power over the weaker (or stronger!) sex, oglers, mean, rude and finally approach to marriage for best-known physical reasons. Mind that I didn’t start the previous sentence with “so what if ”and also I’m not for outright defense for the male species, rather I’m just making an attempt to understand why there always exist this universal, mutual disagreement and a state of being where these two are always out of control of each other.

Exceptions to these make it to becoming amazing friends, wonderful lovers and of course the perfectionist sons and brothers. What about the remaining 98% of the poor, hopeless crowd? What is their consolation? Consider the following scene: A baby boy is born. The parents feel relieved. They see him as a boon. A hope. A prospective wealth-accumulator or at least a breadwinner. He is their redeemer from all grievances: ill health and ill wealth. He is glorified, adored and hailed for his XY chromosome while the baby boy doesn’t know what’s going on. As he grows up he visibly sees the discrimination between him and his sister. He sees his and his father’s eligibilities and society-tradition bestowed privileges. He silently accepts it. He is made to accept. The boy becomes man and allegedly terrorizes. His parents obviously played a crucial role. His parents were like that because one of them, the XY fellow, had similar treatment when he was born and so on. But times have changed now. Misconceptions are fast evaporating. People are now increasingly literate and awareness is spreading. Yet the ill-gotten legacy remains.

Loyalists for the no-education-for-girl policies and men-o-superio still exist. The society is very much confused and yet adamant in following certain half-baked traditions. Instead of Vinoba Bhave role model we have Gladrags super models. Though orphaned, destitute and innocent young girls were, are forced into organized adult entertainment, not all girls who pose promiscuously before lenses were driven by poverty and unemployment! They are the would be miss galaxies, the scantily dressed babes who display nothing but knowledge on stages, the chosen few who know the short cut to stardom in the tinsel world, the selfless volunteers who allow themselves to be even stripped, for money and fame (sorry. read: for the service of arts.) with lot of them turning in each day, our ‘men’ are too good in taking care of (exploiting) them. These aspirants knowingly or unknowingly (under the guidance of ‘experienced men’) are behind the rampant generation of a young men crowd with cheap taste, prurient attitude and lusty looks. Though they have been there for generations, thanks to media, they are everywhere around us now.

What women wear matters men most. Obscene and provoking outfits are dubbed as fashion savvy and style! Though men can also be vice-versa blamed, the crowd of women who make men leer devouringly is far far greater than the percentage of provokingly dressed biceps-revealing-tight-dressed-guys. You don’t find quite often visibly more obscene dressed men in count comparative to women. Men constantly cultivating their disgraceful appetite for physical pleasure have grown up into psychos, serial killers, distressed and violent head of the families. Most of these would surely have had bad childhood. I guess if the mother and the peer pressure factors are well set, then we would have less of dangerous and more of understanding men.

With so much to go, I don’t understand why guys are always the one to be blamed. They are just a part of a big legacy they unknowingly inherited. While some of them understand this and make a difference for their life partners while a majority of them don’t. Yet every man gets his share of lashes from the man-hating (read man-eating) crowd. Prejudiced, blasted, and not heeded just for the sake of being an XY fellow. Women are becoming increasingly self-centered. Injustices and ill treatment is constantly in their minds so that they fail to acknowledge genuine efforts of a few good men. Mothers have greater roles now to help boys eliminate these uncomfortable differences with girls. Teachers have the greatest role to imbibe virtues into boys that affect gender relations. Men would be better with good social atmosphere, of course with appropriate restraints. Off late I have observed something that I guess my community would agree. “Girls often ignore or never come to know or reject guys who love or care for them a lot”. For a majority of men love’s labor is lost! Shall I tell you an age-old truth? “ Women will never understand the love of men”. Never. Never Ever.

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